Hello and welcome to your weekly dose of actionable (and occasionally provocative) things.
Last week, my marriage finally started to pay off.
I’ve been waiting for this moment for. ever.
I was a bit under the weather, which is a fancy way of saying I had enough energy to complain, but not enough to be useful.
Reading was out.
So obviously, it was TV time.
The problem: I hate opening Netflix. It usually takes longer to choose something than to watch it.
So I asked my wife.
She is basically a bookworm, but for TV shows. She watches them like a full-time job.
The issue is our tastes are aggressively different.
We cannot watch each other’s picks with straight faces.
Can you imagine me watching “Bridgerton”?
Exactly.
I tried a few episodes a few years ago and still feel like I am a bit violated.
But hey, I was sick and desperate.
Fever makes us humble.
So I took her recommendation.
And surprisingly, my love was on point.
She told me to watch “Your Friends & Neighbors”. With Jon Hamm, who joined my top-actors list about three episodes into “Mad Men”. And honestly, who does not like ham? (Sorry. As of writing this pathetic joke, I am clearly not fully recovered. I need to use the excuse while it still works.)
And the TV show was good. Really good.
So yes, after all these years, marriage delivered real value: one great TV recommendation and several hours of couch-based healing.
What a great marriage after all, huh?
Plot twist: nevertheless, I was not dismissed from cooking duties. And, boy, I delivered.
Enjoy the edition.
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Learn From My Mistakes
Short story of how I break life chaos into small, solvable problems - 3 min read.
Intelligent and polite people somehow avoid talking about religion, politics, and money.
Since I am neither, I have never fully understood why it is supposedly rude to ask how much people make.
Which is funny, because money sits right in the middle of both religion and politics anyway.
But I do not have any particularly elegant thoughts on those two today, so let’s just talk about money.
And if you are still here after that modestly presumptuous opening - welcome. (Yes, “presumptuous” is a new word I learned recently, and I am using it with the confidence of someone who just found a new toy)
Over the years of living in the USA, I have noticed something genuinely fascinating.
Everybody wants me in debt.
Not a little.
Not in a tasteful, controlled, financially responsible sort of way.
I mean deep in it. Decorative levels of debt. Elegant, reward-optimized, points-earning debt.
Every retail chain has its own credit card with an exciting little sign-up bonus.
Banks keep offering premium cards that promise hundreds of thousands of airline miles, as long as I spend $5,000 in the first 90 days, which feels less like a perk and more like a dare.
Buy now, pay later buttons now appear at checkout so often they may as well just say, "Come on. Live a little."
Even Apple, a company that has somehow turned screen cleaning cloth into a luxury category, will cheerfully offer me a 0% APR installment plan for almost anything.
And I get it.
I am, unfortunately, very susceptible to this genre of nonsense.
I love buying now and paying later.
A little too much, apparently, because after a short vacation, random spending, and whatever other small lies I told myself in the moment, I checked my accounts and realized my cash gap had gone negative.
Negative $1,800.
Actually $1,934.
But I rounded it to make it feel less shocking.
In simple terms, my credit card balance was about $1,934 higher than what was sitting in my checking account.
Am I crazy?
Yes, absolutely.
Thank you for asking.
But not in a way that is especially relevant to this story. That is more of a long-running side plot.
The actual point is that our fam have a rule: if we cannot pay cash, we do not buy it at all.
(Please do not bring mortgages into this. Do not ruin the atmosphere. We are keeping this light, but realistic.)
So naturally, you may be wondering how I can say that with a straight face while sitting there with negative $1,600 between checking and credit cards.
Glad you asked.
The trick is very simple.
Do not keep all your money in checking.
After every paycheck, the money gets moved around aggressively:
credit cards get paid off weekly, like a small religion (love this cult!)
some money gets invested (at least that is the image I would like to maintain here)
and whatever is left stays in checking for normal expenses and the random hits (yes, my lovely wife, this is my official proof that I always think about you! Love ya).
I assume most people do some version of this.
But there is one category of money that quietly sits off to the side and does not get much attention.
A small savings account.
I do not actively contribute much to it.
I also try very hard not to touch it.
At current rates, it earns around 3.5% annually, which is obviously not going to buy me a yacht, a villa, or even emotional peace.
And that is fine.
Because that account is not there to make me rich.
It is there to make sure everything I buy is still, technically, bought with cash.
That is the whole game.
Our debt must never exceed what is sitting in savings.
At any point.
That is the rule.
So in practice, this is how it works:
I buy things with credit cards
we collect the rewards, which I enjoy way more than I should
if there is a temporary cash gap, we cover it from savings instead of paying soul-selling credit card interest
and the second savings gets touched, spending is cut off until the amount is built back up
That last part matters.
Because without that part, this is not a system.
A boring little buffer between "I like rewards" and "I now live under a bridge because I wanted airline miles."
A couple of notes, purely for entertainment and absolutely not because I am trying to become your personal banker:
If you are in the U.S. and already trapped deep inside the Apple ecosystem, the Apple Card setup is worth looking at. Do your own homework, obviously, but the cashback can flow straight into the Apple savings account automatically, which is neat. And the really useful part is that Apple can move money from savings back to checking in about one business day. That speed matters more than people think.
And if Apple is not your thing, take a look at Acorns. Different setup, but still a pretty clever way to make spare money behave slightly better than it would on its own.
Anyway.
If we cannot pay cash, we do not buy it.
Not that we actually pay with cash.
That would be disrespectful to the cashback banks are so generously trying to hand us for free.
And before I hang up on you - “one more thing” (© S. Jobs)
Pull your last 6 to 12 months of bank statements, drop them into ChatGPT, and ask which credit card is actually worth having based on how you spend.
You might find that airline cards are mostly a first-year romance: great sign-up bonus, exciting promises, and then a much less impressive long-term relationship.
Over time, cashback usually wins, unless you spend half your life on planes.
Till next time.
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Our favorite digital finds
Tools, apps, and services that actually deliver
If Apple gave you a weird black cutout at the top of your screen, it is only fair to ask it to do some work. MacNotch turns that space into a little dashboard for quick controls, updates, and utilities.
This seems especially good for lightweight daily reflection. OhDiary just emails you, you reply, and future you gets to read it later.
The tool is built for people who hate scheduling apps almost as much as they hate scheduling itself. This helps by flipping the question and asking when people are not free, which is often much easier to answer.
Short & Sweet
Short articles worth your attention
Advice for Living in A World Being Changed by AI - 21 min read.
AI may be both wildly overhyped and badly underhyped at the same time. Spencer Greenberg argues the tech has moved much faster than many skeptics seem to realize, then gets into the more practical question of what to do with that.
My Morning Toolkit - 7 min read.
The useful part is not the tools themselves so much as what they are doing. Jeremy Caplan walks through his actual morning stack, from a cheap bedside clock and phone exile to planning, writing, and low-key AI help.
Different Kinds of Smart - 6 min read.
A good reminder that smart is not one thing - humility, judgment, and not letting your ego make dumb decisions matter too.
Add this to your shelf
If you're looking for something to read, this book's worth considering
This is not really a “be more creative” book, which is a relief. It is more about how unusual ideas survive contact with bosses, institutions, groupthink, and your own tendency to overthink yourself into silence.
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A Workspace I Envy
A handpicked desk setup that caught my eye this week
Somehow this would look even better in my dark-walled office.
Behind the Persona
A deep dive into the quirks, habits, and backstories that shape icons
Reed Hastings built Netflix, which is already a fairly suspicious contribution to society. Before that, he was a math teacher, then a software founder, then the guy who helped move us from waiting for DVDs in the mail to watching one more episode at 1:17 a.m. He also got oddly famous for how he ran the company: fewer rules, long memos instead of pretty slides, and a strange amount of faith in people using common sense at work.
Cool Facts About Reed Hastings
Dinner Cap: Reed Hastings once gave himself a fixed budget of 11 work dinners. When the dinners were used up, he stopped saying yes. His family supposedly was happy.
Shiny Side Quests: Looking back on Netflix’s early years, Hastings said the company wasted about 20% of its effort on side projects that felt strategic but were mostly distraction. His lesson was brutal: clever extras do not save you when the core product still needs work.
Boring Work First: Hastings later said Netflix would probably have won faster by getting the basics right faster shipping, less damage, better envelopes. It is the same problem most people have when they redesign the system instead of doing the job.
Write Before You Talk: At Netflix, important discussions were often built around long written memos, not slide decks. Hastings preferred a clear written argument because it exposed weak thinking before the meeting started. It resembles Amazon’s approach (or vice versa?).
Start With the Real Question: In board meetings, the first step was to write the main questions on a whiteboard. That forced the room to deal with the actual decision instead of hiding behind presentation mode.
Context Over Permission: Hastings tried to give people enough information to make good decisions without asking for approval every five minutes. The idea was that smart adults move faster when they get context instead of instructions.
One Owner: When a decision mattered, Netflix named one “informed captain” to make the call. That person gathered input, decided, and owned the result, which is far more useful than six people sharing blame.
Fight Early, Not Forever: Hastings wanted people to argue hard before a decision was made and stop arguing once the call was made. Debate was useful only up front.
Say It Out Loud: Hastings once said that silent disagreement is disloyal. If you see the problem and keep quiet, you are not being nice, you are just handing the mess to someone else later.
Feedback Separate From Pay: Hastings wanted feedback conversations separated from compensation decisions. It is hard to hear useful criticism when your brain is busy calculating what it means for your raise.
Three-Box Feedback: One common Netflix format was “start, stop, continue.” It sounds almost insultingly simple, which is probably why it works better than vague advice like “be more strategic.”
Watch-worthy clips
One video that got us thinking, and we think you'll like it too
Creativity is not a magical lightning strike, and this clip explains why in under three minutes. It offers a simpler model: fill your brain with useful material, give ideas room to bump into each other, and keep things organized enough for something new to form.
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